What is this Ebook about?  How to help yourself in your Growth Journey and bring to yourself all the best resources you can muster to achieve your goals.

What Information do you need?   You need to understand basic self-help categories.

·       Do you have problems to solve (e.g. anxiety, depression, low self-esteem)?

·       Do you have goals you wish to achieve (e.g. confidence, career success, and wealth creation)?

Probably you will be dealing with both.  That’s the story for most of us.  If you have Problems to Solve, these will inevitably affect Goals to Achieve.

Conversely, if you have Goals you want to Achieve, you will likely uncover Problems that need Solving along the way. In either case, dealing with one will positively affect the other.

Commit yourself to becoming the Best Person you can while having fun and enjoying your Life.

These are the Fundamentals to creating a Healthy Positive Attitude. It doesn’t matter where you begin, as long as you have a goal. A self-improvement goal is easy to state, as we did above.

Committing yourself to becoming the Best Person you can could be considered an Umbrella Goal.

Under this Umbrella Goal there will be many sub goals. For example:

·       Dealing with Anxiety

·       Building Self-Esteem

·       Going back to school

·       Building or remodeling your home

·       Establishing Career Success

·       Finding a partner

·       Creating Wealth and Abundance in Your Life

Each of these sub goals will have needs of their own.

For example:

Would increased Self-Esteem help in any of the above goals?  Of course it would.  Would reducing anxiety levels help in the above goals? Of course it would.  Would “Thinking More Positively” help in the above goals? Absolutely!

See how we move from the umbrella goal to sub goals belonging to Problems to be Solved or Categories of Achievement. These stepping stone goals, which are part of everyone’s process, are interrelated.

Have a problem with Anxiety?  Then, you have a problem with Self-Esteem or Creating Wealth or Achieving Success.

Benefits of this Ebook

·       Presents shortcuts to understanding yourself and problems to be solved.

·       Helps to quickly identify your Umbrella Goal and any Sub Goals for problem solving and achievement.

·       Helps you discover how to Manage your Anxiety.

·       Learn how to grow Self-Esteem.

·       Develop and establish Positive Thinking Habits.

·       Make the most of your Talents and Past Successes.

·       Find Strength and Courage in a history of Abuse or Neglect.

·       Learn how to re-parent yourself as you deserved as a child.

·       Turn any failure into a success by extracting its beneficial lessons and noting the strengths you developed.

Learn to understand yourself better by identifying various adaptive patterns.

-        Did you become an Overachiever?

-        Are you excessively controlling, of yourself and others?

-        Did you become an underachiever?

-        Did you learn to rely on drugs, alcohol or medications?

-        Are you holding yourself back from Creativity and Success?

-        Did you “decide” that “you have no needs?”

-        Did you become Passive-Aggressive?

-        Do you have problems identifying and expressing your emotions?

-        Are you plagued by depression, anxiety and self-doubt?

A Human Being’s Basic Bill of Rights:

·       You have the right to have your needs met.

·       You have needs that deserve your attention.

·       You have Value, just as you are right now.

·       You deserve to be loved and appreciated.

·       Apologizing has redeeming value.

·       You do not need to be perfect.

·       You are not perfect. No one is.

·       Healthy Self-Esteem is necessary fuel for Life.

·       Self-Improvement can be fun.

·       Your past is “what happened” to you, not “who you are”.

·       Your survival and adaptive strategies are also about “what happened to you”, and not “who you are”.

·       Survival patterns and adaptive strategies can be changed.

·       You have the right “to improve your life” in whatever manner you prefer.

·       Harming others will never advance your goal to improve yourself or your life circumstances.

·       Positive self-esteem, joy, happiness, love, regret, loss, hurt, pain, success, failure and so on, are all part of life’s experience.

Your Goal:

Your goal is to get where you want to be in terms of problems solved and achievement goals realized. This makes use of The Power of Intention and The Law of Attraction.  What you focus on will come to you.

It would be a good idea to for you to STOP focusing on anything negative Right Now!

For Example:

I want to live my life in the fullest and healthiest way possible by growing self-esteem, reducing anxiety levels and building confidence within one year.

I want to grow my net worth by …..% within 2 years.

I want a Strong and Healthy Relationship in my life by the end of this year. . .

You want to achieve your Goals as safely and efficiently as possible.

The Road:   This road ill be paved with  Success, Failure, Strength, Defeat, Leaps Forward, Retreats, Heroic Days, Down Time, Friends, Foes – All part of the Process.

Ask Yourself This:

Can I still love myself after . . . . . . .  (fill in your greatest shame or perceived failure)?

The Ideal Human Being:

He or She is not perfect.  He or she has Great Tools which they use to achieve their goals and grow in their best direction.

Self-Help Resources are Tools:   You adapt these tools to your needs and goals. Experiment first, then use the ones that work best for you!   You will get to your goals with the right resources.

Maurice Turmel holds a PhD in Counseling Psychology. He was a practicing therapist for nearly 25 years providing counseling and therapy to individuals, groups, organizations and families. He is the author of “The Voice – A Metaphor for Personal Development”; “Mythical Times – Exploring Life, Love & Purpose”; and “When Angels Call – Spiritual and Emotional Recovery from Grief and Loss”. He hosts his own radio show on BlogTalkRadio – “The Personal Growth Advisor.”

How to Assess Your Self-Help Needs

Self Help is, itself, a broad category from which to choose resources for your personal benefit:  It is wise to assess yourself first, in terms of “needs”, “goals” and “problems” to be solved. Because as you work through this process you will find that more than one Online Resource may fit the bill.  Then you are in a good position to test a number of things to see what works best. That’s why you read reviews and access “Inside the Book” (which Amazon features) to determine whether this is a good resource for you.

Your Inner Self Knows What You Need. Pay Attention to Your Gut Feelings about whatever Resource you are Testing.

As Martha Stewart would say: “This is a good thing”.

Life, after all, is a sequence of trial and error, followed by trial and success. You’re going to hit the jackpot more often than not. You will get what you need.  Ideally, of course, you want to get your needs met regularly and reduce the experimenting involved in getting there.

Keep in mind that you are learning a very important lesson. You are learning to TRUST YOURSELF.  And that is worth its weight in gold.

As you listen to yourself and hear those subtle responses to what you are examining, your heart and intuition are hard at work leading you to exactly where you need to go. Each time you do this you are fine tuning your connection with your own best resource – Your Inner Self!

This brings us to our first important distinction in theassessment process.

To keep things simple, we are going to identify two broad categories you will pursue in terms of Self-Help. These we will call:

1) Categories of Distress which are Problems to be Solved; and

2) Categories of Achievement which are our Goals to be Achieved.

Under Problems to be solved, we may find symptom problems such as anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, negative thinking and so on.

These are the types of symptoms or problems that consistently have an adverse effect on your sense of well-being.  We can sum these up as “Negatives we want to get away from and eliminate.

Under Goals to be achieved, we may find personal growth, self-improvement, positive thinking, goal setting, success conditioning and so on.  All of these “goals” will have a positive effect  on your sense of well-being.  We can sum these up as Positives we want to embrace.

So our two broad categories are:

1)   “Distress – Problems to be Solved” which we want to move away from and:

2)   “Achievement – Goals to be Achieved” which we want to move toward.

This is our beginning point. Your problem areas or achievement goals will fall under one of these two.

Is it likely that you will have more than one problem area to deal with, or more than one achievement goal to pursue? The answer, of course, is quite likely.  Before you begin feeling overwhelmed, consider the following:

For example, under Categories of Distress, you may be experiencing anxiety and low self-esteem. Which do you tackle first?  Or, do you tackle both of them at the same time?  The answer is: you tackle the one that troubles you the most, because the other one will be beneficially affected as well.

Think about this for a minute.  If you learn to reduce your anxiety, you will likely experience an increase in self-esteem.  Conversely, if low self-esteem is the dominant issue, then improving your self-esteem will likely reduce your anxiety.

In either case, the lesser problem will be positively affected.

That doesn’t mean it will not need focused attention of its own.  But as the dominant problem recedes, the next one needing your attention will step into the queue.  Remember, your ally in this is your Intuition and Feeling Centre.  This is what 25 years as a therapist and 40 years as a seeker have consistently shown me.

Let’s move over to “Categories of Achievement” and see if this may be true here also.

Suppose our goals are to increase “Positive Thinking” and apply some “Success Conditioning” to our work attitude.  We still make the same choice.  Which of these goals do we most desire at this particular time, given our current stage of development? You can be assured that whichever goal you choose, the other will be positively affected as well.

After which, that secondary goal may now press for attention, or some other as yet unseen goal could materialize.  You can’t see what’s around the corner until you actually turn the corner. And you can’t turn the corner until you get moving!

For some, this may seem rather straightforward;  for others, this may be feel overwhelming.

It’s time to make another important distinction.  Just as we’ve identified two broad categories of Self-Help requirements, we must now distinguish between two broad categories of “Persons seeking Self-Help.”

Category 1 will be those persons who have done some work on themselves and have a sense of what “problems” or “goals” they want to deal with next.

Category 2 belongs to your basic “Newbie” who has little or no experience in seeking self-help and/or doesn’t trust their ability to make good choices for themselves.

We can readily see that these two groups are radically different, but only on the experience scale.  Their goals and/or problems to be solved are still part of their desire to improve their lives and their sense of effectiveness.  On these points, they are the same as category One individuals, who also want to improve their lives.

So the fundamental question for both groups is essentially the same:  ”Where do I start?”  And the answer for both groups is also the same: ”Start from where you are right now!”

Let me explain.  If you are a newbie, then look for resources and programs that are designed for the novice and address your current problem or goal.

For example, if you have an issue with anxiety, phobias, or low self-esteem then pick a program, book or audio course that addresses your dominant concern.  On the other hand, if you’ve been engaged in personal development for a while, then trust that your Intuition and Feeling Centre will take you where you need to go next.

The most pressing need or desire, for persons in either of these groups, will make its way to the front of the line.  That’s just the way we are built!

Maurice Turmel holds a PhD in Counseling Psychology. He was a practicing therapist for nearly 25 years providing counseling and therapy to individuals, groups, organizations and families. He is the author of “The Voice – A Metaphor for Personal Development”; “Mythical Times – Exploring Life, Love & Purpose”; and “When Angels Call – Spiritual and Emotional Recovery from Grief and Loss”. He hosts his own radio show on BlogTalkRadio – “The Personal Growth Advisor.”

The every day competition to win over others has developed a kind of self-centric attitude in every individual. But in this race, man has forgotten that he needs to win himself before conquering the world. The more mankind is heading towards modernization, the more it is being entangled with problems. In such circumstances, peace of mind is the only thing that one should aspire for from all his efforts. But, where can you get peace? Is there an easy way out to restore mental calmness, self satisfaction and success in life?

These questions have puzzled many people and prompted them to find their peace of mind in religious options, psychological treatment therapies or alcohols. But, as long as you are not satisfied with your inner self, it is almost impossible for you to get true success in life. And the best way to overcome all your worries and get going with your life is `Self Help`. This is the theory that has transformed inherent personalities of many people and helped them achieve success. The concept has also molded many disappointments into achievements. So, what self help is all about? How it can help you achieve success in your life? Well, the discussed tips are some of guidelines that can help you improve your self-esteem and achieve your objective of life.

1. Have faith in yourself:

Believing in the self is an inspiring and active force of life that can take you to places. Unless you trust yourself, no one else will trust you. Have faith that you have the ability to do something. This `self help` will help you find your ways to overcome many hurdles. When you believe that you have the potential to achieve your goals, you can unleash your strength and give shape to your dreams.

2. Recognize and nurture your strengths:

All of us have a special ability that can make us stand out among others. But, unless you realize that special quality, which is your forte, you can hardly give efforts to improve it. Therefore, instead of brooding over things that you lack in yourself, exercise your strength to make it stronger and more useful for you.

3. Judge yourself, but not based on others` opinion:

Often, people feel disheartened if someone gives negative remarks on them. Try your best to keep yourself away from this feeling. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. Be proud of what good qualities you have and judge yourself based what you know about yourself. This is a crucial self help tip that can save you from depression.

4. Prioritize things you love to do:

Spend as much time as possible doing things that you really enjoy. Of course, here I mean doing constructive things that aids to your self-esteem and self development. Often, people excel doing their favorite activities. For instance, you can perform your best when you are in a job that you love to do. This self help will make you feel better and you will come closer to your success.

5. Select your friends group carefully:

People surrounding you make a lot of difference to your life. Often, they affect your lifestyle, thinking and activity. Hence, it is vitally important that you select right kind of people in your circle. They should contribute to your success and vice versa.

6. Positive thoughts attract positive result:

Your thought has a direct impact on your actions and the results you get. Think positive and speak positive thoughts to yourself. Focus your thoughts on things that your desire to achieve. You will find the energy of self help dragging success towards you.

Your achievements of life depend mostly on your efforts. Hence, boost your self-esteem and lead a successful life with the self help tips.

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